Magic

I love books. I have spent countless hours reading, totally engrossed in the story written in ink on those many pages. Our lives are like a story lived out instead of written down on the pages of a book. We often think our lives are boring or average. No great adventures, not filled with danger or some great love story or steamy rampant affair, nothing special. I tend to disagree with that perception though.

Each day is a new fresh page, you never know what twists and turns your story will take. What adventures are in store for you around the next corner. Take a closer look at what think is average or boring. Everything you come in contact with becomes part of your story, even if it is for a brief moment, it is all magical and unique. When friends ask me what I am doing I usually say 'nuttin'! In fact that is not entirely true.

Any number of things are going on around us, if we take the time to really appreciate them and see them. For example, look and really listen to the birds and everything else around you the next time you go veg out in your back yard. How amazing they are. Flying around from tree to tree, hopping around on their little legs on the ground, singing their unique symphony to us free of charge. Watch the wind blowing through the leaves on the trees, caressing our skin and gently running its 'finger' through our hair. So many amazing things that go on in our stories that we scarcely even notice.

I love watching my kids play together. They make adventures and stories and act them out as they play. As we grow I think we forget how to play and let our minds free of inhibition to create things, inspired by all that surrounds us. Like a day dream. Why is it that so many adults have such a hard time playing and letting go? What happened as our stories unfold that makes that so hard to do? Each second of our lives are an adventure, each thing we see and do is never the same, always fresh, always a new angle. Yet we always seem to seek to spice things up.

Perhaps that is one of the reasons people cheat on each their significant other, or look for someone new. We forget to look at the amazing person laying there beside us. Appreciate each day how they change, how they think and express themselves. We forget to tell them how magical they are. We forget to be open to how we feel and to what we see. We forget to see the things we fell in love with, what we felt when it was new and fresh. The excitement of looking at them, touching them, listening to their heart beat or the sound of their breathing.

It's time to open your mind and your eyes and to look at all the amazing and magical things around you, all the things that touch your story and make it what it is.

You can have whatever your little heart desires!

Desire- not a word I really use all that often but the other day the word popped into my thoughts. We do not often use the word desire that much these days, not as much as it use to get used back when. Nope now we usually say 'want'. What is the definition of desire? What is the first thought that comes to mind when you hear or say it. Desire.

Desire- 1. craving: a wish, craving, or longing for something.

2. something wished for: something that or somebody who is wished for (formal).

3. sexual craving: a strong wish for sexual relations with somebody.

When I think of desire I think of something or someone that in your mind creates an intense feeling of want for that particular thing or person.

So it seems like it is such a powerful word yet one that gets used so little. Why is that?

Has anyone ever said "You are the object of my desire" to you? Not me! Ravish yes, but that just sounds lame and is a really pukey way to try to get someone to feel amorous toward you! If I were to ask that special someone the question: "What is it you desire?" , and the reply ever came back as -"You", I think I would probably melt into a puddle. So what that tells me is that romance and such is so cold these days its sad. People there is something seriously wrong with that! Both men and women should be out there romancing the man or woman they desire, make them feel loved and desired, wanted and special. No wonder there is such high divorce rates, no wonder there are so many people out there having sex problems! Where is the passion, the fire? It makes me wonder!

So what is it that you desire?

Love is.... what you want it to be.

So I have been inspired to write about that little thing called love. It strikes me how we all view love so differently, yet in some ways just the same.

I have been lucky enough to have people that I love, to have been in love at least once or twice in my life. I have in the past thought I was in love, but only a very short time later discovered that it was not more than an infatuation. I have learned and continue to learn a great deal about myself in the process. One thing I have noticed is how differently I think about love now that I am a little older and maybe a little wiser. Ok at least street wise!

I used to have expectations of the person I was in love with, or the person I loved. As I have grown I relize how foolish an idea that was for me. That idea left me dissapointed, hurt and sometimes very jaded. How I ever thought that it was a good idea to expect someone to react or feel certain ways (that I wanted them to) I doubt I will ever know.

So what's changed. I try to no longer have expectations of anyone to behave or feel or think any thing remotely like I do or would like them to. It can be hard, and I have found myself slipping up on many occassions, but I have reflected and sort of redirected my energy to be more positive.

Love is a gift that you give, on both ends really. For the one that loves you the gift is the desire to be there to support you through lifes obstcale course, to lend a hand when you fall and to celebrate when you succeed. They lift you up and tell you the truth no matter what that truth is, and they try to never hurt you in order to benefit from whatever the cause or hurt maybe. They teach you and accept the little things you, even if they are not the most pleasing habits or actions. They do all this even if you get mad at them, or say things you don't mean. They are there because they want to be, even just to be near you, but above all they expect nothing in return, not even love.

For they one being loved the gift that they take in that love and it helps them in some way however small. They grow even if its just a little and inside they now that someone thinks the world of them. It inspires their greatness and hopefully lets their heart sing. I think that is such an amazing gift.

Yep I am a big sap, and I wouldn't want it any other way!

Even though I have no expectations I still get hurt, it is bound to happen even in the best of relationships with anyone. Disappointment that love was not returned in the same capacity, or in the same form. Hurt that the object of your affection does not want to be near you and would rather be near someone else. And so on...

One thing that it makes me think about too, is the power of words. Not just the words but the feeling and thoughts behind them, or lack of thought even. I tell my son that words have more power than any hand or foot. That what you say and how you say it reflects how you feel and what you are thinking. That words can cut deeper than any knife and the scars though you can not see them can be bigger than any visible ones. Yet words can tell the people you love how very deeply you care for them and can lift them higher than the clouds.Yes even written words can do that to an extent. That when you combine those words with actions or touch the impact is so great that it is like nothing in this world.

Yes I am officially the biggest Dork around, its a good thing I can admit it and I wouldn't want to be any other way.