I happen to be lucky enough to work and be around a lot of different people. In all different walks of life and of all different ages, I hear a lot of things. One thing that I seem to hear quite a bit about is the differences between the genders. Each one is like a different species to the other. Each one seems to have a different language. Our differences attract the other and yet seem to be so confusing. We have fears in relating with each other and seem to view or assume things about one another. Yet the goal is to be able to make a sweet song that allows us to dance together, to float through life on the melodies within our souls.
I can not count how often I hear men and women who are single ask how they are to approach one another, how to talk to one another. Seems like a ridiculous thing because you would think it would be simple. Yet there seems to be a wall that is so solid however invisible it is. You see someone of the opposite sex that caches your eye from across the room, and the thought of approaching that persons scares the daylights out of you. Why is that and what finally gives you the courage to walk over there and say anything?
I know that we are afraid of rejection and afraid of hurt, maybe also the fear of the unknown stops us. I think, however, that in so many ways were are really the same or at the very least are searching for the same things. Ideally that is. I think that many of us just want to find someone that will be there, someone that wants to be with us, to listen, to talk, heck just to lay with. We need to feel close to another person, to have a bond with someone. We want someone to walk through life with all its sorrows, trials and joys with, to share the great times and to share the burdens.
Sure our ideas on things may be a little different, and our interests may be very different in some respects, but really the things we want and need really are not that far off. Don't our differences make us unique, special and so very interesting. Think about this... After the initial attraction to someone what holds your interest and desire of that person? I know for me it is that persons mind and most importantly their heart. The little things strike me to the core. Things that I may describe as sweet or may make me look a little differently at things. Our differences make others think about things and help them to see things from a different angle. How boring would life be if we all had the same views and thoughts and feelings on things. We should celebrate our differences and not be so fearful of the rejection of other people.
As far as how to approach someone that makes you do that double take, well I hear so often that people just don't know what to say. What about a smile and a warm hello. How hard is it really to talk to one another. I understand the whole giddiness that we feel when you see someone that tickles your fancy, but really if you don't talk to them then you will always wonder. Fear rules so much of our lives, sometimes with good reason, but more often than not the reasons are just things we have invented to avoid having the confidence in ourselves, or to step out of the comfy cocoon we have wrapped ourselves in. You know that person won't bite and hey if they do you never know, you might like it.
Really what I guess I am saying is that you shouldn't let fear rule you, you have to believe in yourself enough to just do it. We are all different and unique. We all have something to offer that is so amazing that no one else can offer, or at least not in the same way. Open yourself up to the experience and let someone touch you in ways that are unknown. Trust me that guy or girl across the room is just as scared as you are to make the first contact, but if neither one does, wow you just don't know what you are missing out on! In short I hope you dance that incredible dance, that you find the music that blends and moves so magically with your own that you float through life with your heart full of melody. Sing loud and strong, who cares if you are off key, and dance, even if you look like Elaine. Find the joy in your voice and then share it.
I can not count how often I hear men and women who are single ask how they are to approach one another, how to talk to one another. Seems like a ridiculous thing because you would think it would be simple. Yet there seems to be a wall that is so solid however invisible it is. You see someone of the opposite sex that caches your eye from across the room, and the thought of approaching that persons scares the daylights out of you. Why is that and what finally gives you the courage to walk over there and say anything?
I know that we are afraid of rejection and afraid of hurt, maybe also the fear of the unknown stops us. I think, however, that in so many ways were are really the same or at the very least are searching for the same things. Ideally that is. I think that many of us just want to find someone that will be there, someone that wants to be with us, to listen, to talk, heck just to lay with. We need to feel close to another person, to have a bond with someone. We want someone to walk through life with all its sorrows, trials and joys with, to share the great times and to share the burdens.
Sure our ideas on things may be a little different, and our interests may be very different in some respects, but really the things we want and need really are not that far off. Don't our differences make us unique, special and so very interesting. Think about this... After the initial attraction to someone what holds your interest and desire of that person? I know for me it is that persons mind and most importantly their heart. The little things strike me to the core. Things that I may describe as sweet or may make me look a little differently at things. Our differences make others think about things and help them to see things from a different angle. How boring would life be if we all had the same views and thoughts and feelings on things. We should celebrate our differences and not be so fearful of the rejection of other people.
As far as how to approach someone that makes you do that double take, well I hear so often that people just don't know what to say. What about a smile and a warm hello. How hard is it really to talk to one another. I understand the whole giddiness that we feel when you see someone that tickles your fancy, but really if you don't talk to them then you will always wonder. Fear rules so much of our lives, sometimes with good reason, but more often than not the reasons are just things we have invented to avoid having the confidence in ourselves, or to step out of the comfy cocoon we have wrapped ourselves in. You know that person won't bite and hey if they do you never know, you might like it.
Really what I guess I am saying is that you shouldn't let fear rule you, you have to believe in yourself enough to just do it. We are all different and unique. We all have something to offer that is so amazing that no one else can offer, or at least not in the same way. Open yourself up to the experience and let someone touch you in ways that are unknown. Trust me that guy or girl across the room is just as scared as you are to make the first contact, but if neither one does, wow you just don't know what you are missing out on! In short I hope you dance that incredible dance, that you find the music that blends and moves so magically with your own that you float through life with your heart full of melody. Sing loud and strong, who cares if you are off key, and dance, even if you look like Elaine. Find the joy in your voice and then share it.
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